Effective adn Powerful
I have been a therapist for over 20 years. Heather and Bryan's insights and strategies are the most effecitve I've found in helping clients of any age with any diagnosis. I feel very confident when I tell parents that I have solutions that will work for their children.

Ken Thom, MS, LPC

This book put into words and examples things I had been discovering with my own daughter
I loved this book! It really is amazing to bring everything back to Love versus Fear and being present with your child. It sounds so easy, but most people I observe don't do it regularly and well- even "great parents"! It has been huge learning to just be there for my daughter, to listen and really hear what she is saying instead of knee jerk-reacting! It has already affected my life inside and outside of my home and I know it will continue to be life changing if I continue to be aware and grow in these areas!

I heard Dr. Post speak and then I purchased the book. I knew right away that what they were saying made sense and not many others were saying it. I had done a lot of research and had listened to a lot of friends give advice, but parenting my daughter in those ways was not working and was not getting the same results as they were getting or that I even recall having when my mom and dad raised me!

I keep this book available to re-read and re-read. It is amazing how something so simple can get so difficult as we live out day to day life. I need these reminders! Also, Great examples!

Because I so loved this book I did some research and I also just completed a training with one of the authors Heather Forbes (and Eric Guy) of this model -My husband came with me and we both loved it and have been applying it not only to our relationship and interactions with our daughter but with each other.

Some of these principles in the book have given us instant positive results- I have never heard my daughter speak out the things that are overwhelming her so clearly or so soon, especially when the beginning of the sharing was her yelling at me that I was "so mean" for say, making her turn off a TV show. With other parenting styles I would have sent her instantly to her room or time out with a "don't you use that tone with me young lady" Now the TV still stays off, but we end up talking, yelling slows down and instead of tears and more screaming, I actually end up hearing her heart about topics totally unrelated to the anger expressed about turning off the TV. It is amazing! Other things we are still working on, mostly on applying things that are in areas I now see I have my own issues not yet healed.

I highly recommend this book to anyone, and especially to those whose children have been adopted, have been through some sort of trauma, have attachment issue or very low ability to manage stress and who don't respond to more traditional parenting methods like you would have expected. Actually- to those families the book will be life saving- to any families you will love what it brings into your tool-box!

READ IT! And if you are reading this book and would like another tool in your tool-box, sign up on Heather Forbes' website Beyond Consequences website for free Daily Parenting Tips! I signed up for heather's Parenting emails and was amazed how each day they came so right on target and made me look at myself, not just my child's behaviors. It reinforces what the book teaches in a daily, timely way! **Sorry this post is so long- hopefully you skimmed to get out of it what applied to your life or what you are seeking to know about the book. :- )

Press on! as Heather Forbes would say!

Healing happens
Heather Forbes and Dr. Post introduce an amazing journey of healing and empowerment for parents of behavior challenged children in thier book. Their passion and desire to help and heal families is present in thier writing. The only regret I have from reading and using this book, is I TRULY wish it was used in our foster care and pre-adoptive training! Our struggles would have been lessened and our children hearts and souls healed much, much sooner. If your are a parent of a child with a trauma history, who have challenging behaviors because of thier abuse and neglect, and are struggling and praying for answers, this book will put you on the right road for those answers! This is a must have handbook for foster, adoptive, resource and kinship parents. Thank you Heather and Bryan, for stepping out of the box and introducing a parenting resource that empowers parents and heals children!!

Complet waste of money
This book was terrible and it's scary to me that something like this is in print. The first clue was the bashing of "traditional views". When someone is so intent on bashing other opinions, usually they are not too secure in their own. After reading this trash, now I understand why. What is really disturbing is that the authors actually quote Scripture but their message is far from it. The bottom line in the book is everything the child does is not their fault or their responsibilty. It is something in the parent that makes the parent upset by the behavior. God help the families that actually by into this message. I'm very sorry that I spent $20 on this book - even $1 would have been too much.

Beyond COnsequences, Logic and Control: A Love Based Approach Helping Attachemnt Challenged Chidlren with Severe Behaviors
I enjoyed reading this book because the language is simple. It is not techinical but straight to basics. It demonstrates perceptions we have that chilren owe us as parents. Traumatized children have a different thought process. It validates the behavior and demonstatrates clear ways of thinking and processing so that the child as well as parent feel safe to rebuild a relationship/trust that was lost. The reader must be open to the process of thinking in a different manner. The techniques take time but the process helps to ease our fears as well as the child's. What we fail to realize that trauma is based on perception, we can feel empathy for a child who has lived in trauma. Just because we make things look good and feel that we are doing our best, that trauma still lives in that child and it will resurface thorugh time. Even for ourselves. I would reccomend this book to parents who adopt or even have chidlren that are ODD or angry.